| Intro To Dating 102 Core Requirement |
“Now the reason the enlightened prince and the wise general
conquer the enemy whenever they move and their
achievements surpass those of ordinary men is foreknowledge.”
Sun Tzu, Ancient Military Commander
conquer the enemy whenever they move and their
achievements surpass those of ordinary men is foreknowledge.”
Sun Tzu, Ancient Military Commander
“Don't think there are no crocodiles
because the water is calm.”
Malayan proverb
because the water is calm.”
Malayan proverb
A deluge of input and feelings will
challenge your sanity. Keep it simple.
Your brain is the only thing that stands
between you and miscalculating him.
Dress to kill, get really drunk,
misunderstand each other, get mixed
messages, wake up the next day
dazed and confused. Your heart will
report love. What will your brain
report? Keep it simple unless hating
yourself is a good thing where you
come from.
challenge your sanity. Keep it simple.
Your brain is the only thing that stands
between you and miscalculating him.
Dress to kill, get really drunk,
misunderstand each other, get mixed
messages, wake up the next day
dazed and confused. Your heart will
report love. What will your brain
report? Keep it simple unless hating
yourself is a good thing where you
come from.
"You can tell whether a man is clever
by his answers. You can tell whether a
man is wise by his questions."
Naguib, Mahfouz
by his answers. You can tell whether a
man is wise by his questions."
Naguib, Mahfouz
"Men show their character in nothing
more clearly than by what they find
laughable." Anon
more clearly than by what they find
laughable." Anon
Take a walk downtown, get some dinner, hang-out after at an ice cream shop, see what he thinks
is funny, learn what interests him about you - anything that allows the two of you to get to know
each other without distractions like other people butting in, loud music, large drama, big
excitement. Dance clubs, parties, the movies, a play all prevent easy, flowing communication where a thought
is allowed to evolve and reveal the speaker’s beliefs and feelings. You want to use your senses, feel the
vibrations, and sense the intonations and nuances of his actions and reactions. You’ll miss a lot of it at a noisy
bar or party. There won’t be any at a movie or a play. Keep it simple, direct, and one on one, face to face and
casual. A huge volume of information will be available for your brain to process later if you set the stage to see
and hear. You do want to get to know him don’t you? If you’ve allowed yourself to really get some serious
exposure to who and what he thinks he is – and he you. Cool! The concept, of course, is to let your good sense
beat the animal magnetism to a decision on this guy. Scoop him up or skate away.
is funny, learn what interests him about you - anything that allows the two of you to get to know
each other without distractions like other people butting in, loud music, large drama, big
excitement. Dance clubs, parties, the movies, a play all prevent easy, flowing communication where a thought
is allowed to evolve and reveal the speaker’s beliefs and feelings. You want to use your senses, feel the
vibrations, and sense the intonations and nuances of his actions and reactions. You’ll miss a lot of it at a noisy
bar or party. There won’t be any at a movie or a play. Keep it simple, direct, and one on one, face to face and
casual. A huge volume of information will be available for your brain to process later if you set the stage to see
and hear. You do want to get to know him don’t you? If you’ve allowed yourself to really get some serious
exposure to who and what he thinks he is – and he you. Cool! The concept, of course, is to let your good sense
beat the animal magnetism to a decision on this guy. Scoop him up or skate away.
You already know that once a gal
gets stuck on a guy it’s always a big
mess to get out of it. So then, before you get
stuck, before the endorphins turn you into a
sucker for anything he says begin listening
closely to what he says - before your
hearing becomes impaired.
gets stuck on a guy it’s always a big
mess to get out of it. So then, before you get
stuck, before the endorphins turn you into a
sucker for anything he says begin listening
closely to what he says - before your
hearing becomes impaired.
Don’t Turn a Dude into a Dud
On hearing this strategy one girl said to me,
“Hey, I always dress my hottest when I’m out
with a new guy. I want him to see me at my
best right from the start; if the guy turns out to
be a dud instead of a dude, tough luck for
him.” To this I would say some duds are
actually dudes, dudes who have been so
taken by your awesome attractiveness that
they just came unglued in the presence of
your raw animal magnetism. You really need
to step up your temperature slowly for some
guys or risk watching them boil over from
premature exposure, kind of like tanning. Let
his melanin build up before you reveal your
sunshine full strength or risk exploding him
right out of your tanning booth.
On hearing this strategy one girl said to me,
“Hey, I always dress my hottest when I’m out
with a new guy. I want him to see me at my
best right from the start; if the guy turns out to
be a dud instead of a dude, tough luck for
him.” To this I would say some duds are
actually dudes, dudes who have been so
taken by your awesome attractiveness that
they just came unglued in the presence of
your raw animal magnetism. You really need
to step up your temperature slowly for some
guys or risk watching them boil over from
premature exposure, kind of like tanning. Let
his melanin build up before you reveal your
sunshine full strength or risk exploding him
right out of your tanning booth.
Go Easy on Looking Hot
Save some trump cards for when you need them. Resist
cranking up your maximum hotness for awhile; let the first
couple of dates happen easily without the props, the
decorations and the distractions, meaning the perfume,
makeup, fancy hairdo, knock his socks off bare legs and tight
clothes. You may not want this guy “stuck on you” right away.
You may learn things in the first few dates that will make you
wish you hadn’t wasted your time, let alone your best efforts to
be attractive. Besides why play your aces right away until you
see what trump cards he has that will signal that the game is
really on. When you finally know this guy is to be pursued then
you can show him your best game. It will also send a signal
that you have validated his role as pursuer and you have
accepted his pursuit. It’s nice not having to wonder if you were
just attracted to him for some other, non-romantic reason.
Save some trump cards for when you need them. Resist
cranking up your maximum hotness for awhile; let the first
couple of dates happen easily without the props, the
decorations and the distractions, meaning the perfume,
makeup, fancy hairdo, knock his socks off bare legs and tight
clothes. You may not want this guy “stuck on you” right away.
You may learn things in the first few dates that will make you
wish you hadn’t wasted your time, let alone your best efforts to
be attractive. Besides why play your aces right away until you
see what trump cards he has that will signal that the game is
really on. When you finally know this guy is to be pursued then
you can show him your best game. It will also send a signal
that you have validated his role as pursuer and you have
accepted his pursuit. It’s nice not having to wonder if you were
just attracted to him for some other, non-romantic reason.
When I see a bird that
walks like a duck and
swims like a duck and
quacks like a duck, I
call that bird a duck.
James Whitcomb Riley
walks like a duck and
swims like a duck and
quacks like a duck, I
call that bird a duck.
James Whitcomb Riley
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