Go into His Settings and click Empowerment, go down to New Coach, type in your name and Save .
College men have the highest regard for coaches. They know that a coach empowers and drives them to be the best. Translate the nurturing capability of your female nature into empowerment in your everyday life and you’ll have a lot of men watching you closely. Coaches are a hot commodity by virtue of encouraging, praising, guiding, cheering and believing in their athletes. Whether or not your kinds of guys are athletes, they will instinctively respond to what they feel about you. When they experience you compliment, encourage and cheer the others on campus, their radar will immediately acquire and recognize the signals. College guys will want to be “on your team” and - they haven’t actually met you yet! Is that crazy or what! You will be stunningly attractive with or without cosmetic neon signage. Dudes love empowering women – they’ve got game. Want empowering game? Keep reading. It’s so simple you’d have to be a guy to believe it.
So why do you suppose, so many college guys, are so into sports? The real answer is passion; the fact that incredible, amazing passion comes packaged as action, shouldn’t mislead you. Take away the passion from his action and his interest falls apart faster than his “my dog ate the book report” excuse he lamely tried in high school. Guys love action for sure, but passion holds his attention long after the action ends. Just have a listen to their postgame drama.
So do you want to get men’s attention? Empower others in public if only for a moment. Crank up your attractiveness and more guys will begin appearing. Once you meet them you will begin to focus on discovering their particular passions. What are their special talents, skills and interests and what makes them turn into drama queens when they reveal their emotions about this or that? What especially thrills him: art, design, engineering and creativity; or thinking, concepts, theory, knowledge, instruction, people, and process? Discovering and focusing conversations, activities and goal setting on his passions will capture his attention, and keep it. Everyone’s personality harbors an over-reaching interest in certain areas of certain topics. Your task is to discover and ignite the passion that may or may not be known to him. These passionate feelings can be extremely motivational and critical to starting, bonding and maintaining a lasting relationship with someone – especially the romantic one – that generates the most potential for the empowerment of both people.
With all of this talk of men’s passions, I want you to know that I’m not missing the elephant in the room: the strong mating instinct of young men; rather I choose to assign the heavy lifting tasks to the elephant a little later. At that time I’ll explain how you might employ both men and their elephants for mere peanuts. “Very clever you” his brain will shout!
“Admiration is a very short-lived passion that immediately decays upon growing familiar with its object, unless it is still fed with fresh discoveries, and kept alive by a new perpetual succession of miracles rising up to its view.”
Joseph Addison
When attempting to quickly glimpse the range and depth of a man’s passions, it is important to hear and feel three things from him: his “war” story, the grandest dream for his life, and his role model. The war story is his retelling of an actual, highly emotional time, when the odds were stacked against him to succeed or survive, he believed the threat was very real, he felt seriously tested…and yet he prevailed. “A Wow! Tell us all about it story.” So, what’s a huge challenge to him?
Second, you want to hear and feel the grandest dream they have for their future. Don’t have one? Okay – then dream it up right now. Ha! Either way, you’re gonna learn what’s important to them in their future – and compare how it might sync with yours as well as their spontaneous creativity. Those two stories: the “Best of Me” and the “Best I hope to Become,” will shed a lot of light on who this person is.
The third window into their self is who encapsulates their idea of what they really admire? Who is their role model? Or who comes closest if they had to pick? If you want to help empower this person, you need to glimpse the depth and breadth - the quality of their passion and determination; and learn what they hope to be, what they see in those they admire, and imagine whether you want to get on board this dream romantically. You will learn their beliefs and values; gauge their skills and discover their virtues, like courage, honesty and patience. You will know what drives them and what distorts them. Here is a very broad cross section of their personality on display, up front and personal, just for the asking. People absolutely love talking their best stuff. Be a smart asker and a shut-up listener. They will love talking to you.
“Men love empowering women.
They motivate us to pursue and achieve what we are passionate about.”
“Without passion man is a mere latent force and possibility,
like the flint which awaits the shock of the iron
before it can give forth its spark.”
Henri Frederic Amiel
College men have the highest regard for coaches. They know that a coach empowers and drives them to be the best. Translate the nurturing capability of your female nature into empowerment in your everyday life and you’ll have a lot of men watching you closely. Coaches are a hot commodity by virtue of encouraging, praising, guiding, cheering and believing in their athletes. Whether or not your kinds of guys are athletes, they will instinctively respond to what they feel about you. When they experience you compliment, encourage and cheer the others on campus, their radar will immediately acquire and recognize the signals. College guys will want to be “on your team” and - they haven’t actually met you yet! Is that crazy or what! You will be stunningly attractive with or without cosmetic neon signage. Dudes love empowering women – they’ve got game. Want empowering game? Keep reading. It’s so simple you’d have to be a guy to believe it.
So why do you suppose, so many college guys, are so into sports? The real answer is passion; the fact that incredible, amazing passion comes packaged as action, shouldn’t mislead you. Take away the passion from his action and his interest falls apart faster than his “my dog ate the book report” excuse he lamely tried in high school. Guys love action for sure, but passion holds his attention long after the action ends. Just have a listen to their postgame drama.
So do you want to get men’s attention? Empower others in public if only for a moment. Crank up your attractiveness and more guys will begin appearing. Once you meet them you will begin to focus on discovering their particular passions. What are their special talents, skills and interests and what makes them turn into drama queens when they reveal their emotions about this or that? What especially thrills him: art, design, engineering and creativity; or thinking, concepts, theory, knowledge, instruction, people, and process? Discovering and focusing conversations, activities and goal setting on his passions will capture his attention, and keep it. Everyone’s personality harbors an over-reaching interest in certain areas of certain topics. Your task is to discover and ignite the passion that may or may not be known to him. These passionate feelings can be extremely motivational and critical to starting, bonding and maintaining a lasting relationship with someone – especially the romantic one – that generates the most potential for the empowerment of both people.
With all of this talk of men’s passions, I want you to know that I’m not missing the elephant in the room: the strong mating instinct of young men; rather I choose to assign the heavy lifting tasks to the elephant a little later. At that time I’ll explain how you might employ both men and their elephants for mere peanuts. “Very clever you” his brain will shout!
“Admiration is a very short-lived passion that immediately decays upon growing familiar with its object, unless it is still fed with fresh discoveries, and kept alive by a new perpetual succession of miracles rising up to its view.”
Joseph Addison
When attempting to quickly glimpse the range and depth of a man’s passions, it is important to hear and feel three things from him: his “war” story, the grandest dream for his life, and his role model. The war story is his retelling of an actual, highly emotional time, when the odds were stacked against him to succeed or survive, he believed the threat was very real, he felt seriously tested…and yet he prevailed. “A Wow! Tell us all about it story.” So, what’s a huge challenge to him?
Second, you want to hear and feel the grandest dream they have for their future. Don’t have one? Okay – then dream it up right now. Ha! Either way, you’re gonna learn what’s important to them in their future – and compare how it might sync with yours as well as their spontaneous creativity. Those two stories: the “Best of Me” and the “Best I hope to Become,” will shed a lot of light on who this person is.
The third window into their self is who encapsulates their idea of what they really admire? Who is their role model? Or who comes closest if they had to pick? If you want to help empower this person, you need to glimpse the depth and breadth - the quality of their passion and determination; and learn what they hope to be, what they see in those they admire, and imagine whether you want to get on board this dream romantically. You will learn their beliefs and values; gauge their skills and discover their virtues, like courage, honesty and patience. You will know what drives them and what distorts them. Here is a very broad cross section of their personality on display, up front and personal, just for the asking. People absolutely love talking their best stuff. Be a smart asker and a shut-up listener. They will love talking to you.
“Men love empowering women.
They motivate us to pursue and achieve what we are passionate about.”
“Without passion man is a mere latent force and possibility,
like the flint which awaits the shock of the iron
before it can give forth its spark.”
Henri Frederic Amiel