March 30
*a self contained, step by step, set of operations to be performed.
Appreciation begins with Recognition.
Recognition confers Admiration and Respect.
Admiration and Respect build Self Confidence.
Self Confidence is the Engine of Accomplishment.
Accomplishment is Self Actualizing.
Self Actualization is Bliss.
Real love requires recognizing, appreciating and admiring another’s beliefs and values, their virtues and character traits…and communicating yours to them for their evaluation.
Once this is accomplished, you make room for their issues. If you can enjoy their positives and accommodate their negative issues, then you have a basis for friendship.
“A strong friendship is the precursor to enduring love.”
You first like and admire each other enough to ignore stuff that would irritate you in another with less powerful positives. Your accommodation of another’s issues – unusual and/or quirky – creates trust, admiration and respect.
These in turn can foster a powerful engine of accomplishment. Coaching each other to evolve into your ultimate best selves (self actualization) is the goal. Bliss is the feeling and state of mind.
"So Logan, I just love hanging out with you. We share so many opinions and we have so many things in common. I really respect the way you think and I feel like you feel the same way about me. WE each have our own goals and dreams and I'm thinking it would be very cool if we sort of helped each other - like coached each other to stay on track. You know what I mean? Like, I'd really appreciate your perspective - like looking over my shoulder...and maybe seeing what I might be missing. You know what I mean?"
"Brehan - I so know what you mean - like my Chem prof is always saying: 'Learn your goal, then discover the mini-steps to accomplish it - daily.' So like I share my short term goals with you and you try to keep me on track, right, and I do the same for you. If one sees the other losing focus then we say something, discuss it, make changes to the weekly plan."
Wow, Logan - exactly! So what's an important short term goal of yours? I know your part time job is making you crazy. Let's talk about fixing that, right?" ...and so the process starts by sharing intimate details and feelings that reveal more character points and the bonding between you begins to strengthen. (Watch Cupid's little toes wiggle as you help each other chase your dreams together!)
Develop the necessary set of skills to sort out the college men that are right for you. Be smart with your selection so that harmony and possibly romantic love can grow without having to deal with confusion, conflict and ultimately chaos.
Fall in love with the next cool looking guy, that gives you the eye, heats up your passions, agrees to see you exclusively, skip the interview process at the Union or coffee shop, proceed directly on a series of laughter filled hookups; and you are statistically doomed to frustration and heartache.
Better get used to mumbling: “Sucks to be me!”
People are complex. You are a person. He is too. Fall in love with the wit and blue eyes and you get to find out about his bad features, when your heart is wide open, because your eyes were wide shut.
You couldn’t wait to hang out and hookup with him, you recall. All that changed minutes after your first serious conversation. “What the…?” Choosing the right college man requires some prep work to develop the skill set, which you’ll need before diving into relationships with others - especially the hotties. Your word, not mine.
What are college men looking for in college women? Their goal is much like yours - in addition to the fun of it. They’re looking for a cool friend, a trustworthy pal who bothers to learn and understand why they believe and feel as they do about the passions that drive them.
If you can become really interested about them for whom they are, then they can begin to admire and respect you, in return. Admire and respect you is a good thing, right? I’m just making sure you’re following this narrow thread of plausibility, ahem…because it happens to be the central core pillar that empowers a new you, a bliss filled life and an amazing, enduring relationship.
This concept works for each of you. The key is to work the principle, you start the chain reaction of the "algorithm," to put it in motion and that is the substance of these writings – drawing on the deep wellsprings of human feelings, to form empowering alliances, which drive positive behavior toward accomplishing our wonderful dreams. Our passions are the jet fuel and cheering and coaching are the guidance systems you’ll learn to enable each other’s best behavior and morph dreams into reality.
The object is to help breathe life into each other’s dreams by targeting passions which power the baby-steps – one at a time, day after day – that move you both along your dream paths, amazed and fulfilled at how your talents have been harnessed and your dreams are being realized.
“…drawing on the deep wellsprings of human feelings, to form empowering alliances, which drive positive behavior toward accomplishing your wonderful dreams.”
I’ll be blogging more about this amazing process that is so easy to understand and do, because it is so logical, so grounded in your own and his common sense, that you can easily trust your own instincts along the way to bliss and empowerment. Did you know that romance could be empowering?
*a self contained, step by step, set of operations to be performed.
Appreciation begins with Recognition.
Recognition confers Admiration and Respect.
Admiration and Respect build Self Confidence.
Self Confidence is the Engine of Accomplishment.
Accomplishment is Self Actualizing.
Self Actualization is Bliss.
Real love requires recognizing, appreciating and admiring another’s beliefs and values, their virtues and character traits…and communicating yours to them for their evaluation.
Once this is accomplished, you make room for their issues. If you can enjoy their positives and accommodate their negative issues, then you have a basis for friendship.
“A strong friendship is the precursor to enduring love.”
You first like and admire each other enough to ignore stuff that would irritate you in another with less powerful positives. Your accommodation of another’s issues – unusual and/or quirky – creates trust, admiration and respect.
These in turn can foster a powerful engine of accomplishment. Coaching each other to evolve into your ultimate best selves (self actualization) is the goal. Bliss is the feeling and state of mind.
"So Logan, I just love hanging out with you. We share so many opinions and we have so many things in common. I really respect the way you think and I feel like you feel the same way about me. WE each have our own goals and dreams and I'm thinking it would be very cool if we sort of helped each other - like coached each other to stay on track. You know what I mean? Like, I'd really appreciate your perspective - like looking over my shoulder...and maybe seeing what I might be missing. You know what I mean?"
"Brehan - I so know what you mean - like my Chem prof is always saying: 'Learn your goal, then discover the mini-steps to accomplish it - daily.' So like I share my short term goals with you and you try to keep me on track, right, and I do the same for you. If one sees the other losing focus then we say something, discuss it, make changes to the weekly plan."
Wow, Logan - exactly! So what's an important short term goal of yours? I know your part time job is making you crazy. Let's talk about fixing that, right?" ...and so the process starts by sharing intimate details and feelings that reveal more character points and the bonding between you begins to strengthen. (Watch Cupid's little toes wiggle as you help each other chase your dreams together!)
Develop the necessary set of skills to sort out the college men that are right for you. Be smart with your selection so that harmony and possibly romantic love can grow without having to deal with confusion, conflict and ultimately chaos.
Fall in love with the next cool looking guy, that gives you the eye, heats up your passions, agrees to see you exclusively, skip the interview process at the Union or coffee shop, proceed directly on a series of laughter filled hookups; and you are statistically doomed to frustration and heartache.
Better get used to mumbling: “Sucks to be me!”
People are complex. You are a person. He is too. Fall in love with the wit and blue eyes and you get to find out about his bad features, when your heart is wide open, because your eyes were wide shut.
You couldn’t wait to hang out and hookup with him, you recall. All that changed minutes after your first serious conversation. “What the…?” Choosing the right college man requires some prep work to develop the skill set, which you’ll need before diving into relationships with others - especially the hotties. Your word, not mine.
What are college men looking for in college women? Their goal is much like yours - in addition to the fun of it. They’re looking for a cool friend, a trustworthy pal who bothers to learn and understand why they believe and feel as they do about the passions that drive them.
If you can become really interested about them for whom they are, then they can begin to admire and respect you, in return. Admire and respect you is a good thing, right? I’m just making sure you’re following this narrow thread of plausibility, ahem…because it happens to be the central core pillar that empowers a new you, a bliss filled life and an amazing, enduring relationship.
This concept works for each of you. The key is to work the principle, you start the chain reaction of the "algorithm," to put it in motion and that is the substance of these writings – drawing on the deep wellsprings of human feelings, to form empowering alliances, which drive positive behavior toward accomplishing our wonderful dreams. Our passions are the jet fuel and cheering and coaching are the guidance systems you’ll learn to enable each other’s best behavior and morph dreams into reality.
The object is to help breathe life into each other’s dreams by targeting passions which power the baby-steps – one at a time, day after day – that move you both along your dream paths, amazed and fulfilled at how your talents have been harnessed and your dreams are being realized.
“…drawing on the deep wellsprings of human feelings, to form empowering alliances, which drive positive behavior toward accomplishing your wonderful dreams.”
I’ll be blogging more about this amazing process that is so easy to understand and do, because it is so logical, so grounded in your own and his common sense, that you can easily trust your own instincts along the way to bliss and empowerment. Did you know that romance could be empowering?